{"id":472,"date":"2025-11-16T14:57:43","date_gmt":"2025-11-16T14:57:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/badvibes.live\/?p=472"},"modified":"2025-11-16T14:57:43","modified_gmt":"2025-11-16T14:57:43","slug":"everything-that-happens-to-your-body-when-you-havent-had-sex-for-a-while","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/badvibes.live\/?p=472","title":{"rendered":"Everything that happens to your body when you haven\u2019t had sex for a while"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Regular\u00a0sex<\/a>\u00a0has myriad benefits, from\u00a0reducing stress<\/a>\u00a0to boosting your immune system.<\/p>\n

But it turns out, we\u2019re not all reaping these rewards.<\/p>\n

In 2023, the latest\u00a0National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles\u00a0<\/a>found that, in the UK, 16% of men and 22% of women aged between 16 and 74 were\u00a0sexually inactive<\/a>.<\/p>\n

A-listers are talking more candidly about abstaining too. \u2018I haven\u2019t had sex in over three years,\u2019\u00a0Khlo\u00e9 Kardashian<\/a>\u00a0revealed during the premiere of the latest season of\u00a0The Kardashians<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\u2018I saw a meme, or a quote, or something, and it was like, \u2018Why are you so happy?\u2019 And the person said, \u201cBecause I\u2019m not\u00a0dating<\/a>.\u201d And I\u2019m like, yes, I actually feel great with that energy right now,\u2019\u00a0she added.<\/a><\/p>\n

On last year\u2019s series of I\u2019m A Celebrity,\u00a0Tulisa\u00a0Contostavlos<\/a>\u00a0also revealed she\u2019d been\u00a0celibate\u00a0<\/a>for over three years, adding, \u2018I\u2019m not an overly sexualised person.\u2019<\/p>\n

Clearly, we don\u2019t all need to be going at it 24\/7 to feel satisfied. There\u2019s no shame in taking a break \u2014 but what impact does it have on your body if you choose to take a prolonged dry spell?<\/p>\n

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What does \u2018sex\u2019 actually mean?<\/h2>\n
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Sex can be defined in whatever way works best for you.<\/p>\n

\u2018As a society, we tend to equate sex with penetration, but definitions of celibacy may mean that all sexual contact with a partner is being avoided,\u2019 Dr Angela Wright, clinical sexologist at The Portland Hospital, explains.<\/p>\n

\u2018Equally, it may not mean a break from all sensuality or intimacy with a partner, or from our own solo sex habits.<\/p>\n

\u2018Being mindful and conscious about what kind of touch you want \u2013 and don\u2019t want, both within relationships and on your own, is an important part of defining and holding your physical and emotional boundaries.\u2019<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Improved emotional wellbeing<\/h2>\n

First up, as Khloe claims, it is possible that celibacy can bring about a positive new era of personal growth.<\/p>\n

Annabelle Knight, Lovehoney\u2019s sex and relationships expert, is an advocate for these \u2019emotional benefits.\u2019<\/p>\n

She says: \u2018Celibacy can give you the space to reconnect with your body and your boundaries, and to understand what you actually want from intimacy.<\/p>\n

\u2018For many people, it\u2019s a time of rediscovery \u2014 focusing on self-care, confidence, and pleasure in other forms, from solo exploration to emotional connection.<\/p>\n

\u2018Everyone\u2019s needs and timelines are different, and periods of celibacy can be really positive for some people.\u2019<\/p>\n

Vaginal dryness<\/h2>\n

It\u2019s not all roses, though. Dr Bhavini Shah from\u00a0LloydsPharmacy Online Doctor<\/a>\u00a0tells Metro that women can end up experiencing vaginal dryness tied to abstaining from intimacy, which can make penetration more uncomfortable if and when you do return to sex after some time away.<\/p>\n

\u2018This can lead to a condition known as dyspareunia, where women can feel pain just before, during, or after sex,\u2019 Dr Bhavini explains.<\/p>\n

Dr Bhavini adds: \u2018Dyspareunia can also be caused by several other conditions, from hormonal changes and menopause to infections from STIs and UTIs.\u2019<\/p>\n

Spontaneous erections<\/h2>\n

\u2018Spontaneous or nocturnal erections are completely normal, and they happen whether you\u2019re sexually active or not,\u2019 says Annabelle. They\u2019re your body\u2019s natural maintenance system, keeping blood flow healthy and tissue responsive.\u2019<\/p>\n

She adds: \u2018During celibacy, they can actually be a reassuring sign that everything\u2019s functioning as it should. They\u2019re not necessarily linked to sexual frustration or unmet desire; they\u2019re just a physiological process, much like stretching your muscles after a long day.\u2019<\/p>\n

Those with penises may find that \u2018spontaneous erections\u2019 occur less frequently owing to a reduction in sexual activity, but she adds: \u2018These effects are temporary and can return once sexual activity resumes.\u2019<\/p>\n

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Changes in your libido<\/h2>\n

You might assume that if you haven\u2019t had sex for a while, you\u2019re going to be horny at all times. But actually, the opposite can be true.<\/p>\n

\u2018You might notice a lower libido if you\u2019re not sexually active, or you may find your desire fluctuates in waves,\u2019 says Annabelle.<\/p>\n

But she explains that the act of having sex isn\u2019t what kickstarts (or satisfies) your libido.<\/p>\n

Factors like \u2018mood, body image, relationship satisfaction, and even how safe or relaxed you feel can impact your libido levels \u2013 often more than the last time you had sex.<\/p>\n

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\u2018For some people, periods of celibacy can actually bring greater awareness of what triggers or suppresses their desire, because they\u2019re tuning into those emotional and physical cues more consciously.<\/p>\n

\u2018You could be celibate for years and still feel sudden surges of desire because your brain and body are wired to respond to stimulation, fantasy, and emotional cues.\u2019<\/p>\n

Giving your immune system a break<\/h2>\n

While the same can be true of having frequent sex, taking a little break from it can also give your immune system a bit of a breather.<\/p>\n

As psychosexual and relationship psychotherapist Silva Neves\u00a0previously told\u00a0Metro<\/strong><\/a>, sex is thought to boost our immune system, referencing one study which showed that people who had more frequent sex had more immunoglobulin, a blood protein that forms part of the immune system.<\/p>\n

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  Regular\u00a0sex\u00a0has myriad benefits, from\u00a0reducing stress\u00a0to boosting your immune system. But it turns out, we\u2019re not all reaping these rewards. In 2023, the latest\u00a0National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles\u00a0found that, in the UK, 16% of men and 22% of women aged between 16 and 74 were\u00a0sexually inactive. A-listers are talking more candidly about abstaining […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":477,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-472","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t